So many times through the years, I have heard that being gay is a choice that people make. I have a hard time wrapping my mind around this for a few reasons. Why would some choose to be abused? Most homosexuals today are still discriminated against. How many times in 2011 alone did we hear about gay teens committing suicide? Why would a person choose to be gay, and risk losing family and friends? Why would anyone want to wake up each day and realize that they can't marry the love of their life because of the stupid laws in this country. Sure, some states how granted gays the right to marry, but it is just a small step towards equality. When will ALL states allow gay marriage?

Gays, bisexuals, lesbians and transgendered people do not make the choice to be who they are. Their sexual orientation is determined before birth. Do they make the choice to ACT on their sexual urges? Yes. Ultimately however, you can not choose who you are attracted to.

With that said, I want to stress that there is NOTHING wrong with being gay, or bisexual or transgendered. I applaud those who come out and who embrace their sexuality. I frown towards those that have a problem with gay rights and being gay in general. No matter what someones belief is, it is NOT immoral or wrong to be a guy in love with another guy.. or a woman in love with another woman. Love is love and love is a wonderful thing.

I am very disappointed in those that don't take being gay seriously. Girls that think it its ok to be bisexual one night just to gain attention from their guy friends. It isn't something you can turn on and off and to pretend you are gay is making a mockery of something that some people live with everyday.

Recently actress Cynthia Nixon has gained some heat because of her poor choice of words. She stated that she has been straight, and gay, and gay is better. She said for her it IS a choice. Well Cynthia Nixon, if you can be straight AND gay, you are not a lesbian. You, my dear, are bisexual.

I don't like that we have to wait to have equal rights for gays. It makes my heart sad. I chose to marry a man, whom I love very much, but I have been bisexual my entire life. I am not ashamed in that. I very much want all gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered people to get the love and respect they deserve. It doesn't matter what they do in their bedroom, or who they are attracted to. If it bothers you to see two people in love, no matter their gender, holding hands in public or showing affection, maybe you have bigger issues than you realize. So many would rather take away the rights of people just because they are "different." Is it better to see war,violence, poverty and hurt? Wouldn't you think people would much rather see peace and people in love? I know I sure would.

I talk about gay rights a lot. I post about it a lot on my Facebook. I don't plan on stopping being an advocate for gay rights until we ALL have equal rights.

I believe in free speech and everyone should be able to feel how they feel, but when your thoughts and actions start hurting others, I have a big problem with that.

I am a huge fan of the It Gets Better Project. Please take a look at the website. http://www.itgetsbetter.org/

"Every closed eye is not sleeping, and every open eye is not seeing."-
Bill Cosby

Please open your eyes and REALLY see and open your mind.